How you can change your beliefs

Do you want to shift and change your beliefs but you haven’t figured out how?

Is there a belief that is constantly getting in your way of your progress. Yet as much as you try to change, you find yourself starting over again?

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Join me on this episode to learn about the importance of this work. And how you can find your freedom from the beliefs that have been your stumbling block.

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Episode Notes

Changing beliefs can be a difficult thing. I am sharing with you a few processes so that you can work with yourself.

The first thing you need for this episode is a bit of time. A lot of honesty and plenty of courage.

When working with yourself it will be very easy and tempting to slip away from your own grip. Stay firm and determined in your work and you will succeed in your effort to free yourself from your own limitations.

  • 0:08 But I can’t
  • 2:47 Intro
  • 3:05 Recap previous episodes
  • 5:52 Why should i work on my beliefs
  • 8:55 The self help guide to overcoming limiting beliefs.
  • 9:54 A word of warning on changing your beliefs
  • 11:50 What to do when you can’t spot the belief
  • 13:24 Essential elements for creating beliefs
  • 16:57 Exercises fro transforming beliefs
  • 20:31 Identify the rules in your beliefs
  • 23:14 Fill in the belief
  • 28:04 Conclusion
  • 29:28 Let go, accept and forgive
  • 30:35 An invitation
  • 34:37 Invite
  • 37:07 Outro

Transcript

00:09 Some of you might know that I have a son. And many times when I sit with my son perhaps like to do homework or to do
something as difficult, he comes up with his phrase I can now many times from trying to instill that belief in him
that yes, you can do this. But the problem is it’s fruitless. If I go directly against that belief that I can, I’m
going to be met with resistance, in opposition.

00:31 It’s the same kind of resistance that he is having with himself. He wants to do this thing or he’s trying to do this
thing, but at the same time he believes that he can’t make it happen. So what happens is he gets stuck in this belief
of I can’t.

00:44 And it makes it very difficult for him to work through whatever is there now. He’s not the only one. I’m with the
same opposition.

00:52 We all have this I can in some area of our lives and it shows up. And it’s a belief that when it shows up, it makes
it very difficult for us to tackle these things that we’re trying to do. And we say that we can because we believe in
that we have this sense that this I can is true.

00:56 And since I can, there is nothing that I can do right now to move forward. If I try to convince him that he can do
it, usually it just amplifies this resistance. It’s just a wall that I keep pushing towards that nothing happens.

01:22 My strategy in general tends to be that we have to deviate a little bit from the path, we have to deviate a little
bit from the task at hand. And in that sense to try and kind of go sideways. Let’s work on this, let’s see what other
things that we can do.

01:34 Let’s focus on those things that they are workable and see what needs to be done with a little bit of patience and
perseverance. As we move along, we slowly, slowly begin to solve our problem. So we start to proveing to ourselves
that we can let go of this belief that I can.

01:54 When we’re focusing on the things that we can do and we begin to disprove that belief that the thing that was right
in front of us that we thought we couldn’t make happen, that belief that I can’t, that was true, it stops being so
true. So when we finish that thing and we reach the end, I tried to tie it all together and ask him what do you think
happened? You were telling me that you couldn’t do this all this time and now it is done. Where is this I can’t right
now? We just made it work, so where is it? Notice I was getting in your way.

02:30 He’s still young, but I’m trying to show him through, just working through things that this I can’t might be there.
But actually if we just focus on something else. If we focus on the things that we can work out, that belief I
thought I can’t begins to fade away.

02:47 Welcome everybody to another episode from Inside Treasures. My name is Fibers and I love to challenge myself and
those around me for the purpose of growth. This podcast is about helping you to heal, to change, and to grow.

02:55 This particular episode is all about uncovering beliefs and overcoming limiting beliefs. In the past few episodes
we’ve really taken belief out and we’ve looked at it in many different contexts and different perspectives so we can
understand what belief is. And we talked about belief shaping the way that we view the world beliefs that we have
about ourselves and about other people around us.

03:22 We talked about how these beliefs are powerful and how they often have a lot of emotion in them. The world isn’t
always so. It isn’t the way that we believe that it is.

03:33 Part of beliefs are based on facts. They’re linked to facts, they’re being fueled by facts, but they’re not the full
truthful representation of what things are. See, our brain is constantly looking to match patterns.

03:46 It’s a pattern making machine matching machine. And then when that happens, the way that brain works is it keeps
filtering information depending on our version of the truth and it omits a lot of the truth that is out there. I’ve
talked a little bit about this into an episode called The Emotional Brain and that will help you understand more
about how the brain works and how we’re matching those patterns in our brains and the emotional reactions that we get
through it.

04:14 When we change beliefs, we can often see that there all of a sudden as we’re changing them, there were parts of
reality that weren’t part of our conscious awareness. But when we’re working with them all of a sudden we start to
remember, we start to have memories that were there but our brain was filtering and others new members are coming up
through a caution’s conscious awareness. There are certain types of beliefs, like deep embedded beliefs that we
particularly have to do with our identity and how we feel about ourselves, that they can appear really hard to shift
and kind of impossible at times.

04:52 Again, this is a belief. So when we come from that place and knowing that oh, this is like deep core belief identity
stuff, it’s very hard to change. Of course, that’s going to fuel that change process.

05:03 And the best kind of recommendation that I have around that is to be willing to be open. Yes, it might be more of the
way that we identify with ourselves, but the more open we are, the more observant we are, the more we can just see
them and work with those beliefs the same way we will work with any other beliefs. And it’s about creating new facts
or relating differently into the facts that we have in our brain, processing the beliefs that we’ve built through the
time because of the experiences that we had.

05:34 Now, that’s not to negate who you are. That’s not to negate what’s happened to you. But it is in order to empower
you, in order for you to be able to move forward with more ease, with more agility, with more freedom, just so you
can have the type of adventures that you want and need to be having for your growth.

05:52 You might be wondering, well, why should I change or work on my beliefs? Like, this is who I am, this is what it is,
this is what I believe. Or it’s just fixed. First of all, the love underlying lies that are playing out.

06:04 And it can feel like beliefs are part of who we are. Especially when we’re talking about self identifying beliefs,
how we view ourselves in the world. But at the same time, it’s realizing that beliefs, they just play out.

06:16 It’s what we said. They play out. They define how we behave, think and act.

06:19 And that’s why they often feel like they’re ourselves. But the same time, knowing that the beliefs are
interchangeable, they depend on situations. They depend in a specific time and early in our lives and then depend a
lot in context as well.

06:34 Changing beliefs and letting go of limiting beliefs is about clearing the lens. It’s about creating a better
experience for you, in order for you to be more free to move about, to be more aligned with your true nature. And
that’s the distinction.

06:39 It’s the same thing as I’m thinking. They’re the thoughts that I’m having and who I am. Beliefs are often like that
as well.

06:56 So identifying a belief and being aware of it is a great step forward. And that’s why I want to take you through this
process. In this episode, the little caveat that I want to put there is make sure that this work doesn’t become a
trap.

07:10 A trap that keeps you trapped and it doesn’t let you move. It gets you being more stuck because all of a sudden, you
know exactly why it is that you wear where you’re at. Because you have this belief.

07:22 And this belief is broken. It makes you be broken. So we got to get rid of it and we gotta let it go.

07:29 Being aware of that is really important because it’s very easy to attach ourselves into the beliefs that we’re having
and see them as a parasite and see them as part of ourselves and see them as the thing that we need to change about
ourselves. Know that in your true nature, who you are is who you are and believes in just narratives and stories.
What we need to do is identify what those are and also learn ways to disrupt these old patterns, act from a new
paradigm.

07:57 You’ve got to create this shift in a way that you behave, you think, and feel. And that will of course, shift your
beliefs. Giving yourself the opposite belief, like I said earlier, with I can and I can’t won’t always solve things
because it’s very easy for us to deflect it.

08:14 It’s very easy for us to oppose it. So we got to do the work. We got to put in the work.

08:20 A very clear example for this is the times you might have noticed it in other people. You might have noticed it in
yourself. If someone gives you a compliment and then instead of you just embracing it and accept it, you deflect it,
you push it away, you say, no, that’s not me.

08:36 This plays out in many situations and we can see that in other people. And you might have seen it in yourself knowing
that, yes, we could identify beliefs, that they can be positive, but at the same time, don’t expect them to work like
magic if we just pick them out and never take action on them. This episode is about the selfhelp and guide of
overcoming limiting beliefs.

08:41 And I put together a little worksheet that you can download. You find the link in the show notes or you can find them
on my website. Know that before you start this work, part of it will be doing it now, but also take some time having
that worksheet and working through it to see what other things that you can come up with that will work for you.

09:20 Because we’re not in the same room, because this conversation is pretty much in one way, it’s very hard for me to
know where you’re at and what you’re resisting and where the emotions are coming and just go along with my guidance.
Be playful, be open, and just be curious to see what plays out. Even if there’s a little bit out there, just go with
it.

09:40 Just so you can register it, so you can be aware of it, so you can become one with it. In the sense of this is what
have been acting out. This is the space that I’ve been coming from.

09:50 These are the beliefs that have been coming into my mind. The deeper the beliefs are, like I said, more core beliefs,
more about identity beliefs, the more essential that work can be. It can throw our entire world out of perspective,
out of balance, because all of a sudden we have to recalibrate the way that we’ve been behaving, the way that we’ve
been thinking, the way that we have been responding.

10:15 A really good example for core beliefs is I was working with this guy, and let’s call him Peter, and we were working
around being authentic concerning our truth and being able to be more assertive and to say the things that are coming
up for us. So it was all about that. Now, the way that Peter was coming across was that he was coming from the belief
that if he was to rock the boat, things will go terribly wrong and bad.

10:43 And also that it was really bad for him to do so. There were a few beliefs, the way that they were manifesting
themselves and there were a few other ones. But the minute we did the work that had a huge impact in the way that he
perceived himself.

10:57 It just all of a sudden he was more free to talk about what he wanted to talk about. But at the same time there was
this build up of emotion that he didn’t know how to handle. And of course we had to have a follow up session to work
through that.

11:04 But noticing how these things can impact different areas of our lives, they impact how we are, they can bring up
anger, resentment, you know, in the long term. All my life I’ve been doing this and now I can do this. And it’s
empowering, it’s intoxicating.

11:04 But it’s also managing to find the right balance through this new belief, through this new paradigm of finding our
center and finding our true selves and not going all the way to the other extreme. Many times when we work with
beliefs it’s an upstream change. It affects our behavior.

11:08 And sometimes you go through from our behavior you but know that you’re also changing at a different level. Now as
you’re going along through this exercise you might think well when X happens I don’t know what am I believing? I
don’t know what I’m thinking about. I just know how it shows up.

12:00 You can start from that. So if I’m feeling that, then what am I believing about myself? What does this mean? These
are key questions to have. And also allowing yourself to sit in stillness, allowing yourself to that’s why you have
to carve out the time when you do it by yourself to be able to reflect inwards without any distractions from the
outside.

12:01 So you can stay with those emotions or you can stay with those thoughts. Again, not to get lost, not to get
sidetracked and drunk from the process, but for allowing yourself to see what your intuition tells you that it is
beneath these circumstances and that will allow you to see the blockages that they are there. So give it time.

12:07 And sometimes you have to have another go because it will show up. You kind of see it will make sense or you push it
away. So when we’re working with ourselves but even when you’re working with other people, it takes time sometimes to
do those shifts because it’s like the rubberband.

12:54 In fact, we kind of go back to where we were. Know that questions can create motion that will create answers for you.
Perhaps today, perhaps in a later time.

13:04 And being okay with that you’re not going to sit here and just reframe and change every single belief that you have
all of a sudden overnight. Actually that can be one of the keys to failure and being more open, being more
concentrated on a few things will help you move forward and go further. Now, there are some essential elements when
working with beliefs and creating new beliefs.

13:29 One thing is knowing what beliefs you’re trying to cultivate that will help you because you have a direction. You
will have some language that you can work with that can help guide your energy. Because with those beliefs as well, a
lot of it has to do with our energy and where we at from within.

13:48 Next thing is building new facts, putting yourself in situations. Perhaps they can be challenging, responding
differently in situations. So you allow your brain to follow and to create these new references.

14:01 Part of it, like I said, you might just be remembering times when was the time that actually my parents loved me? For
example, I keep having this belief that my parents are loving, but actually I can see this time and that time and
that time that breaks the narrative. As I was saying, you kind of have to build that emotional response. You have to
build emotion around this new belief.

14:24 Because if I just say it mentally and I’m never engaging with it, I’m never creating those experiences for me, I’m
not building this deep resonance within me. And that won’t allow the new belief to stick because the old belief has a
lot of resonance, it has a lot of emotional impact in us and we have to create this positive vibe within that. It can
help us cement that belief.

14:33 And a great way to do this is create actions. Actions you can live from and they imply this new belief. So what are
some actions that I could take if I believe this or that I would be taking if I believe this? It’s learning to change
our focus and our attention.

15:07 Learning to retrain our brain to notice new things that didn’t impress us before. Same thing with compliments. Now
all of a sudden I’m just registering the compliments.

15:16 I’m still deflecting a little bit, but I’m registering them. I’m paying attention with them versus tucking them under
the rug, under the carpet and pretending they never happen. Now we allow ourselves to be in that space and slowly,
slowly, we’ll learn to accept them and embrace them.

15:36 A couple of more techniques that we can use is we can use Affirmations. A lot of people use Affirmations with great
success. Other people say it doesn’t work again, it’s the mud and the frosting on the mud kick.

15:49 But we can work with them. We can learn to build an emotional response and we can learn to observe those objections
that come up, being able to pay attention. We’ll get into that in a little bit.

16:00 Whenever you put in a positive belief, a lot of the old negative, limiting beliefs, irrational beliefs will come up.
Another way of doing it is creating powerful empowering questions. So if I was confident right now, what would I say?
What would I do? And then we have to be able to jump the gun, like, really execute on that as quickly as we can so we
can cement in.

16:14 So if I was confident, I would speak to this person. Okay, so that means I need to go and speak to this person. Then
you go and speak to that person already.

16:33 That implies that you’re confident. Now, if you don’t go and speak to that person, would that mean that you’re not
confident? Partly it would be. Is it the whole truth, the entire truth and nothing but the truth? No.

16:44 But learning to play with that in order for us to fuel and learn to be better and learn to be more adaptable to
what’s going on and really fueling ourselves to move forward. Now, I’m going to give you a series of different
phrases and exercises for you to work on. But before I do, I want to get into, like, one situation.

17:02 I want you to think of a situation in which you find challenging, something that’s been challenging you, and perhaps
it’s been going on for a while. Might be a few. Just pick one, and it might be the same thing, really, but just dress
differently.

17:22 Now think of that current situation and think to yourself, when I’m being challenged by this, what does that mean
about me? If it has to do with other people, with a relationship, what does it mean about them? What meaning am I
creating about them? Or when it comes to the specific situation, what meaning am I creating about the situation? What
is it about me going out on a date? That is, what does it mean when I go? What does it mean when I don’t go? Just
notice that. What is driving my behavior? I respond in a certain way. What is driving that behavior? Is there a
belief that I can identify? So what do I believe about this, about me, about them, about the situation? What is it
that I’m currently believing? Another way to put it is what am I telling myself before I go in a process person which
I want to talk to, I feel intimidated.

17:40 I feel intimidated because this is what I say to myself. Maybe they reject me, maybe they won’t like me. And again,
it might not be verbal.

18:38 It might be a sensation that you have in your body, but usually it will manifest as a thought as well. So you have
the emotion and you have a thought, understanding. When that plays out, what is the impact in me? What impact is this
thing having? So when I think that they will reject me, I stop myself from going and talking to this person.

18:48 When I don’t do that, I start feeling bad about myself, start judging myself. This is the impact. This is the result
of what gets created.

19:06 Okay, how would I rather have the situation play out. What would I rather have? What would I rather experience in my
life in order for me to experience that in my life, what would I rather believe? What would I need to believe? If I
believe in myself and I believe in that I’m just going to give value to this conversation. I feel more empowered, I
feel more confident.

19:37 Again, this new belief has a different impact, it has a different fingerprint. So which actions could I take that
would support that belief? Just go and talk to them. Boom.

19:44 So there’s certain kinds of actions that you could take that could help you to build a supportive belief rather than
just saying it in your head. And then it’s about managing to get yourself into acting and doing the thing even if
your whole entire being tells you not to. That is the hardest part.

20:12 But knowing when you have that belief you can start cultivating that belief. I believe in myself and I’ve been in
other situations which I’ve reached and connected with other people and I had a conversation with people I didn’t
know and I had a lot of good time and these were the times that happened. This is just an example.

20:29 Use it in your situation. Now there’s another thing that we can do. You can set down a list of musts and suits and
have to it’s all the rules whether these are internal expectations and demands that we have or external and why we
need to honor them.

20:47 Just spending the time to say I have to XYZ I should, I must. Now from that list, some of them will be fairly
rational, some of them will make sense, some of them will be contextual so they will depend on the situation and like
I said before, most beliefs will depend on situations and take into an extreme. There’s still end up being the same
irrational beliefs just in a distressed differently.

21:13 So is this belief irrational? Is this rule that I have about myself? Is this rule I have about my wife? Is this rule
that I have about my office, my space rational one or rational one you can play on where did it come from? And then
of course you can play again with what would I rather think about this? How could I loosen up that rule so I can
choose to or I want to. So I want to keep my office tidy. I don’t have to.

21:17 I choose to put myself in difficult situations because it helps me to grow but I don’t have to. It’s not a must. I
would rather have my wife make me dinner when I come back from work.

21:59 These are examples here so take them lightly. But instead of she must make me dinner it’s like I would like to it’d
be nice if you made me a drink versus expecting that drink, having that belief, belief, expectation you should be
making me a drink. Where does that come from? How rational is it? Maybe I should get up and make you a drink.

22:27 Notice the shoot again, I need to please you. Shoot rules. Notice the rules of playing your life.

22:34 Write a few of them down, notice how they reflect, notice how they feel. And then choose some new ones. Lighten the
language up around the shoots of master and the have to.

22:48 Perhaps you’ll see where they come from, perhaps it’s relevant. And then we’re training our brain to spot these
things as they’re happening on the day to day. So if you do this once and then you never look at it again one too
much.

23:01 But then if you start to notice what are the times I’m having an expectation for my children? What are the times I’m
having an expectation for my wife? Because I believe this. That’s when the real work starts. And now just a few
phrases.

23:16 Just fill in the things that come in your mind and write a few of them again. You find this on the exercises as well
as the worksheet. Yeah, so let’s start.

23:26 When it comes to X, you have to put in something again, think of it as a scenario when it comes to the situation,
when it comes to me putting myself out there, I believe that. When it comes to dating, I believe that. When it comes
to me coming back from work, I believe that.

23:46 And fill in the gap. And other one is I’m good enough. Because this for some of you might be hard because it’s going
to just set fire to all those limiting beliefs of why you’re not good enough.

24:01 But we can learn to build that. And that can be a daily exercise of writing. I’m good enough because and now you
write the reasons you think you’re good enough.

24:10 You’re retraining your brain over and over and over again, despite the opposition, despite the resistance coming. But
also remember that we have to go into the world and create that. It’s the same analogy that I had with my son.

24:21 We can keep telling and telling and telling ourselves it’s helping. It’s recreating the pinpoints, the points of
references that we have in our brain. It’s learning our brain to shift gears even though like the resistance comes
up.

24:35 But it doesn’t mean it’s just going to go away. Just like that. Because we said I’m good enough once another one
limiting belief I’m not good enough.

24:38 Because now you can have a field play just like all the reasons why you feel you’re not good enough. From the
perspective that this is not a true depiction of who you are, it’s not a true depiction of your self worth, but it
might be the way that is being hidden and uncovered in the way that you have been operating from. So list it, see it,
observe it, witness it.

25:08 I know that most of your life you’ve been in that space and you felt that as being yourself. Now it’s about taking
yourself out of the situation, just documenting like a journalist. This is what’s playing out another one is I am
someone that or I am someone who another one is I’m becoming.

25:28 And then you fill in that gap because that creates possibility, that opens things up and again you can try daily I’m
becoming, I’m becoming someone who is more confident, I’m becoming someone who enjoys dating, I’m becoming someone
who enjoys speaking to strangers. It will start to open you up. It’s still not fully there as we are.

25:47 We are not in our perfectionistic mind, but it’s a process. And as you move through the process, you let go of those
old limiting beliefs. I love myself because again you list the reasons why you love yourself.

26:02 Opposition will come, fine, but you write it again and again. I love myself because x I love myself because y, I love
myself. With all this, write a few, don’t just write one, write a few and see what comes up.

26:15 And notice that, observe that. Notice how the mind begins to get agitated. Notice the objecting beliefs, the
narratives, the stories that they come in.

26:24 These are the things that are playing out, these are the things in the world, the resistance that we are meeting on a
day to day. Now it’s time for you to practice observation, not to get caught up in what you are discovering. You get
all the reasons why you think you’re not good enough.

26:40 Fine, write them down, observe them, see them, what they are and then start this new emotion of why you’re good
enough and what are some great things and do it for a span of time because if you do it once, they want to help you,
but do it for a span of time. All these questions I said and you find them in the workshop. So it’s easier to work
with, see what comes up, see what comes up, see the patterns and then also make a choice, see how it impacts you, see
how it limits you.

27:11 That’s why it’s limiting beliefs, because it limits you from being yourself, it limits you from doing the things that
you want to be doing. It limits you from being out there, it limits you what we call the full potential. It’s just
for me it’s just this character, it’s this master we put in front.

27:25 We stop being authentic, we stop being ourselves and we stop acting, stop acting from that place that it’s not really
who we are and is knowing that even when it feels so real, even when it feels so out there, even when that’s the only
way that we can perceive ourselves. And then to start to play with that and to also create a new reality. But a lot
of it is plain that and sometimes it’s simple as language, sometimes it’s metaphorical, sometimes it’s direct and.

27:55 Then bringing that into action, bringing that in a way that you can easily disprove it without having to go direct
bitcoin sideways. It is my wish and hope that this was a useful exercise for you, that it was something that you took
the time and you spend the time to really reflect and think of the things that they play in. The background, the
limiting beliefs that are playing out, and some of the empowering beliefs that you could really tap into if you
didn’t take the time.

28:24 Book some timing with yourself when you buy yourself, you know, over a cup of coffee, some time for you to really
work with our worksheet and like uncover some of the things that they’re playing out. In conclusion, what I want you
to get out of this episode is that it’s great to do this work. It’s great to see within you what are the things that
they’re running, what are the beliefs that you’ve been believing and they have been leading you.

28:49 But also what I want you to understand is that the point is not to really analyze them so much. It’s just to learn
how to spot them, to learn how to live into a different paradigm by shifting. When that belief is playing out and
that emotional reaction comes in and we feel that, we go on autopilot, being able to spot that and be able to create
a different choice, a new choice and a new way of being.

29:14 So it’s about creating a new truth. It’s about creating the world, a world created. I’ve done another episode of
that.

29:16 It’s being with choice and not like being on default on autopilot during this process. Without a doubt. One thing
that we have to keep practicing is self forgiveness, is compassion, is of observation, it’s being nonjudgmental.

29:16 It’s been nurturing towards ourselves, creating acceptance and allowance for having believed that and for having had
this impact in our life and for having behaved that way. There’s also this other narrative that we can turn against
this belief and why have we been doing this thing and it’s this person’s fault and it’s been my fault. But none of
this is going to serve us where we’re heading.

29:16 It’s about not holding back anymore and actually operating with a better alignment with yourself. That’s why we have
to see it and then we have to let it go, we have to drop it. And whenever we pick it up subconsciously to be able to
spot that and put it back down again, all this is going out in our lives day by day by day and it’s getting more out
of life, more of what you want.

30:10 And there’s a great strength that comes when we choose and we operate from that space that we see the beliefs and we
also start operating from a new belief system. My purpose from this episode was to give you the time and give you the
chance to have someone guide you through this. I find it that it’s very powerful when we have other people working
with us because it is often very easy for us to kind of shy away and avoid going deeper.

30:42 I could spend even more time creating more space, but I feel like it didn’t do the full justice to this episode
because we kind of have a lot of ground to COVID And this is about you taking more of the time and working with
yourself. I love this work I have done with myself in the past and it’s been really powerful process of sitting with
ourselves and being confronted with the things that they’re running. But what I found even more powerful was working
with other people.

31:22 People who had grown through the process as well themselves. People who could help me see my blind spots because they
weren’t being me. People who were willing to challenge my beliefs and help them become more aware of the stories and
the beliefs that I was having as they were running the show.

31:37 Now, is it all gone? Am I cured and perfect? No, none of that. It’s not about that really. It’s just about being more
empowered in our choices and having other people keep us on the path helps us to see the truth.

31:51 Having other people reflect that truth back to us helps us see it in a different way that all of a sudden we’re like,
wow, now that not asking for help is also based on a belief. For me, it was creating the meaning that I can’t accept
help because this is where I am. And the more that I was in this victim mentality, as much as I wanted to break free,
I also crave that attention from other people.

32:08 And I felt, yeah, if I were to get help and things would get better, then I’m actually repelling that attention, that
love. And this place for many people, it might not be your thing, but I found it that with me always resonate and
it’s also moving away with this I need to get fixed kind of mindset as well. That’s our beliefs showing up.

32:38 It’s not that we’re broken, we can see that we might feel that way. And if we were to fix it in that scenario, then
where would we get that love? Where would we give that attention? Where would you get that affection, that sympathy
from other people? I’m spelling it out here and like I said, it’s not the same for everyone. But this was definitely
a part of my story.

33:00 Might be different for you, but I encourage you to discover it for yourself. To discover how much you’re willing to
play with yourself, to be a little bit more free, to understand the distinction between who you are and how you show
up to understand the distinctions of the beliefs that they’re playing out and how they’re showing up in your life
with a way that I tend to work with other people. I work with myself.

33:02 I find two tools that I often use, and that’s hypnosis and coaching. And when it comes to belief, I found and beliefs
in general, I found that both hypnosis and coaching are very powerful in shifting those beliefs, in creating a
container for us to be able to express those beliefs without safety, with our trust, with that net of we’re okay, you
know, we’re not on our own. It’s being able to release that emotional attention that exists, that energy from within
a limiting belief or perhaps the blaming of that accountability.

33:54 There’s so many things that comes with beliefs, and it’s just an amazing way of creating new beliefs and instill them
and helping people do more of what they want because of what has been shared between two people, like between you and
me. And it won’t be, oh, I think this belief would really work for you. It’s actually the conversation that we have,
and there’s a lot of benefit coming from working to one to one because we tend to evade ourselves, we tend to slip
away.

34:23 We’re like slippery fish, and we try to hold ourselves, but at the same time, we know how to escape. And it takes a
lot of courage, a lot of work, a lot of presence to be able to do this work by ourselves. And here’s my chance for me
to invite you, if you would like to have that as an experience in your life, to be able to see certain limiting
beliefs and be playing out in your life, to be able to see what could be some beneficial beliefs that you could build
and have in your life that they can propel you forward for what is right for you.

35:01 I really enjoy sharing these messages with you, and I also really enjoy working with people. So I want to kind of
bridge the gap and bring the two together. So what I have as an offer to you, who’s listening right now, is whether
you would like to have this experience of banks around your beliefs.

35:20 Then what I recommend is to have a 20 minutes conversation between the two of us. I have a handful of available
sessions, and I find that they’ve been really powerful and really useful for people to understand what’s been running
behind the scenes. These sessions, they come without any commitment, without any attachments.

35:39 It doesn’t mean because we speak for 20 minutes, you have to sign up here and pay this and pay that. I want to leave
this open to you. If you feel, and I feel that we’re a good fit, we can definitely talk about this.

35:50 But I’m all about slowing things down. I’m all about taking a step at a time. What I want you to take away from this
is these sessions.

35:55 I offer them here and there on my podcast and through my Instagram. But it’s about giving value. It’s about giving to
the community.

36:03 It’s about giving to all of you who have been supporting my work. And you get that support from me by listening to
what I have to say. So it’s opening the door and just allowing you to come in into my world and seeing what ways I
can serve you in your path and where you’re heading.

36:08 And from that, it’s just a long possibility. Allowing things to emerge for what they are without any pre made agendas
and preconceived ideas about what it will look like in the future. It’s all about the now.

36:12 So this resonates with you. If you feel spending 20 minutes, half an hour with me and actually dwelling deeper into
your beliefs, and you really want to understand the kinds of beliefs that have been running in the background, send
me an email on podcast at inside treasures.com. Contact me on Instagram at inside treasures or go to my website and
simply just click the book, a call button which is at the top right of the website.

37:02 Or you can also find the link that we’ll have in the show descriptions. Remember that I’m here to help you heal,
change and grow. If there’s something that resonates with you, something that you need support with, give me a shout on Instagram @insidetreasures

37:10 If you found any of these messages useful and insightful, and you think other people would benefit from this the same
way that you benefited from this, or they could benefit even more than you benefited from this, just share it with
your friends. Share it with the loved ones that you have. Allow these messages and wisdom to spread to those around
you, because you never know how that will impact them.

37:43 You truly don’t. Thank you for tuning into another episode from Inside Trezos. My name is Fibers.

37:50 And until next time, my friend, let peace guide your life. Let love guide your heart and reason guide your thoughts.

PS. If you want to find stillness in your life and connection with yourself. Join the online Finding Stillness self-paced course.

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